Randyman wrote:I missed all the fights last night to attend the wedding of the daughter of an old friend yesterday. The reception lasted well into the night, as I knew it would. I don’t regret it though. It was a great day and a great wedding. My Friend, Ricardo, is from Guatemala, his wife was from either El Paso, Texas or Juarez, Mexico, she was never 100% clear on that, I’m not sure she ever really knew. Or maybe I’m the one that wasn’t clear.
This family is very special to my family. Many years ago when my wife and I were renting, they lived in the house behind us, on the same lot. It’s ironic because for the first year Ricardo and I did not exactly hit it off. Our kids became friends and so did our wives but with Ricardo and I it took a while. In time we all became almost like one big family on that property. In time Ricardo became much more than my friend. He became more like family. All of them did. They were humble beyond belief. Decent, hardworking, good people. The wife, Socorro passed away a couple of years ago. She was in her late forties. It was hard on Ricardo. Their kids are the salt of the Earth. Their kids and ours have remained friends over the years. More like cousins than friends.
Years ago when I was out of work and on disability for a few months, Socorro came up to me and handed me some money. I was puzzled and asked “What’s this?” She said to me. “You are on disability, take this”. Now, you should know, that even while on disability I was making more money than Ricardo and Socorro combined. They were not people of means. They were struggling. Barely making ends meet, if even that. So naturally I couldn’t accept the money, $75.00. I tried to give it back but she wouldn’t take it. Their daughter Melina was with her. She said to me, almost pleading” Randy, you have to take the money, my mother will be hurt, she won’t understand”. So I accepted the money. I have to tell you guys. It was one of the most humbling experience in my life. This woman was an angel. They both did many acts of kindness for my family and we in turn did our best for them. There were a few times when I was really able to repay them, sometimes without them knowing.
Socorro would have been proud of her children yesterday. They raised good kids. Smart kids. Hardworking patriotic American kids. My own kids admire them. The are three of them Brian, Melina and Kevin.
So yesterday was Melina”s wedding day. It was at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Whittier. It was a traditional Catholic wedding. It was an emotional experience for everyone, friends and family. I’m not exaggerating when I say Socorro’s spirit was in that church. Now I am no sissy but I had a few tears in my eyes. Ricardo walked his daughter down the aisle and you could see the emotion coming from them. I wouldn’t have missed this wedding for all the money in the world.
Later, at the reception, Ricardo and I were reminiscing about the old days. Remembering when our kids were little and how that backyard was filled with their noise every night until we called them in to do there homework. In the summer we let them stay up late. It was a fenced yard so we checked up on them but we didn’t really worry. Those days, in that home, on that lot, were some of the best days of our lives. We saw the sadness in each other’s eyes as we realized that those days are gone forever. They will never be back. We made a toast to the past, to Socorro and to the future. I’m glad I missed those fights last night.
Randy,
You mention St. Mary's Catholic Chruch in Whittier, Ca. and it brought back memories, memories that are dear to me. In 1984 my mom and dad renew their vows after fifty years of marriage. at St. Mary's.
In 2004 my sister Mary Ellen passed away and a mass of Christian Burial was held at St. Mary's for her. Her two daughters attended school at St. Mary's, one is now a doctor, the other one is a public accountant.


